Ephesians 5:33 Let the husband so love his own wife as himself . . .
When we genuinely love, we put the needs of the other first. In marriage, when we put the needs of our spouse first, most generally, we will find our needs are met as well. The husband’s love encourages the wife’s respect, and her respect encourages the husband’s love, and on and on it goes.
So what are some ways a husband can show love to his wife? How does a wife want to be loved?
She wants CLOSENESS. A wife has a need to feel close and connected in a way that a husband doesn’t. She wants to stay up-to-date with you, because you matter to her. Hold her hand, hug her, tell her how pretty she is, kiss her, initiate going for a walk, set up a date night, share your day with her, ask her about hers.
She wants TO BE UNDERSTOOD. Live with your wife in an understanding way.
If you just listen to your wife, rather than trying to find a solution, she’ll most likely feel understood. Talking helps a woman process her feelings and clarifies things for her, and then she feels better and she feels understood.
She wants TO BE PRIZED. She wants to be cherished. She wants to know she’s the one and only. Do everything you can to let her know that you are committed to her for as long as you both live. Speak highly of her in front of others. Open her car door. Remember birthdays and anniversaries. She wants to feel treasured, as if she’s the most loved woman on earth!
We would love to hear from you! Tell us about a time where either you gave or received unconditional love or unconditional respect, and it was memorable to you.